{"id":3482,"date":"2016-11-03T17:34:06","date_gmt":"2016-11-03T15:34:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ajurveeda.ee\/the-ease-of-being-a-woman\/"},"modified":"2026-09-17T19:22:37","modified_gmt":"2026-09-17T16:22:37","slug":"the-ease-of-being-a-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ajurveeda.ee\/en\/the-ease-of-being-a-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"The ease of being a woman"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Women are born into this world to cultivate a sense of love within themselves and around them. However, the realisation of this potential is often hindered by unproductive, and sometimes even harmful, patterns of behaviour and thought that have become ingrained over the years \u2013 patterns which are also the root cause of our health problems. Ayurvedic solutions are simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A young mother in her twenties came to me for a massage \u2013 a long, oil-based session. A beautiful, lovely and warm-hearted young woman, absolutely delighted with her adorable baby. She told me she\u2019d gone back to study whilst looking after her child and was also doing a bit of project work at home so as not to \u2018get bogged down in the nappy routine\u2019. Listening to her, I recognised myself from 27 years ago, when I had my first child. Later, after my second, third and even fourth child, the same train of thought crept into my mind \u2013 albeit growing weaker with each one \u2013 making me feel worthless, insignificant and alone whilst \u2018simply\u2019 staying at home with the baby.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Indeed, our current way of life is performance-based, and you have to be \u2018somebody\u2019 to be valuable. This belief has been instilled in us from outside. A person\u2019s innate, natural state is simply to live and to be. You don\u2019t need to be \u2018someone\u2019 to be happy \u2013 but this is something we have to relearn over the course of our lives. It is enough simply that you are. And there are no greater teachers of the marvellous lightness of being than our own children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Stepping away from performance<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

I have seen women in their 30s who have experienced depressive thoughts and anxiety. They often have chronic health problems as well. There are quite a few women who have wanted to get pregnant but have not managed to conceive. These women have done everything to be \u2018somebody\u2019: they are educated, intelligent, beautiful, successful, in a relationship \u2013 and yet they feel that something is missing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Deep down, they want to experience being and living in tune with the rhythms of nature, and to break free from the pressure of constant performance. They simply want to be, to feel and to create within a small community model \u2013 the family. I help these women to relax, to experience themselves in love, and sometimes I also support them with herbs. Some of them are expecting a child. This is the ultimate expression of nature\u2019s creation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

From the age of 40 onwards, a wonderful period of transformation begins in a woman\u2019s life, when the spiritual fruits of self-realisation come to maturity. During this powerful period of maturity, a woman is supported by her daily routine, small, loving changes to her habits, gentle techniques to boost self-love, a balanced diet and herbal support for her hormones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In later years, during the golden years, the maturity and abundance that come with age are a source of supreme joy for a woman \u2013 provided she has lived in contact and harmony with herself, nature and everything around her. Understanding and accepting the mystery of life is a great gift. Those caught up in the rat race of life need the wisdom, peace, presence, sense of love and kind words of a woman in her golden years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The wisdom of a woman\u2019s body<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Every spring I marvel at the cherry trees in a sea of blossoms in my garden, and I am filled with the bittersweet realisation that this mystical beauty lasts for no more than two weeks out of the fifty-two in the year. At the same time, I am also aware that for roughly the same amount of time \u2013 those brief two weeks \u2013 ripe, sweet fruit will be ripening on that very same tree at the end of summer. Life is wonderful, beautiful and simple.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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At every age, it is important to be aware of the processes taking place in one\u2019s body and mind, and to give oneself time, peace and love.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Health and happiness are natural states of being for a person. Happiness is a feeling of abundance and love within oneself, which quietly overflows, nourishing everything and making it fruitful. Symptoms of illness are a sign that the system is out of balance and needs attention.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman is created in such a way that she experiences and understands the laws of nature very clearly as the rhythms of her own body \u2013 perhaps this is precisely why it is said that all women are wise witches. A woman knows that the body has an innate ability to heal and cleanse itself, and this is expressed through metabolism. The body is wise: bodily processes function of their own accord and naturally, provided that what is going on in our minds does not confuse us. But how can we listen to our bodies rather than to what our minds tell us?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mind and body<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

We all know that the body and the mind form a single whole, but we are less aware that they have different, even conflicting, interests.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The body always craves a familiar, safe and stable rhythm of life, rest and routine: eating and sleeping at fixed times, morning cleansing rituals and moderate exercise.<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The mind, on the other hand, constantly craves new things and more stimulation, and quickly grows weary of the status quo. The internet is based on this phenomenon, and the entire advertising industry is built upon it. The mind automatically turns towards wherever the noise is louder, where the colours are brighter and there is more going on. The mind is stimulated by the use of computers and smart devices, watching television, intense social interaction, non-routine physical activities, and all the information coming from outside the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Any deviation from the body\u2019s usual routine causes stress. It is exhausting for the body to constantly cater to the mind\u2019s whims and live in a state of overstimulation when everything is always in a rush. There is an interesting word in Estonian: \u2018meelelahutus\u2019 (entertainment). So, what is the mind being distracted from? Constant entertainment diverts attention away from the body and bodily awareness \u2013 this is how the mind is distracted from the body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Overstimulation and rushing about create a state of stress, which in turn causes dissatisfaction, insecurity, a lack of love and a feeling of worthlessness. Physically, stress manifests as metabolic and digestive disorders. The causes of digestive problems \u2013 an irregular lifestyle, stress, poor diet or side effects of medication \u2013 all point to the fact that we have not been kind and loving enough towards ourselves, or that we have neglected our body\u2019s needs. Chronic digestive disorders can result in food intolerances, allergies, deficiencies in nutrients, vitamins or minerals, and being overweight; according to Ayurveda, they can also lead to far more serious chronic illnesses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We must therefore be aware that the mind is not always at the service of the body. By recognising the nature of the mind, we can consciously, lovingly and consistently direct our attention to the body\u2019s needs \u2013 especially as women. To reduce stress, we need to introduce more regularity into our lives, minimising stimuli and the overall intensity of our daily existence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Healing naturally<\/h2>\n\n\n\n